10 Signs Your Children Are Brats:

1. They resort to crying or yelling when they want something.
2. They throw themselves on floor and won't get up.
3. They constantly throw tantrums or even hit you when you punish them.
4. They ignore you when you ask a question.
5. They are rude to other adults and even to other children.
6. They refuse to share toys or treats with other children.
7. They are show-offs and are constantly trying to one-up their peers to be the center of attention.
8. They always want whatever everyone else has. Once they have it, they want something new.
9. They keep a messy room and never help out around the house despite your pleas for them to do so.
10. They refuse to go to bed.

Enforcing disciplne and structure is a big responsibility and a big challenge to commit yourself by being firm with how you want to bring up your children. Establish your outer limits of safety. Reinforce positive social behavior in a similar way. Know what you will encourage, such as saying please and thank you and playing gently with friends. Talk openly with your children about behavior as they get older. Stay calm. Losing your temper with bad behavior only makes you feel bad and look out of control and it doesn't teach the child better behavior. Be consistent. Always do what you say you're going to do. If you tell your child there will be consequences for a certain behavior, they should know you mean it.

I was a spoiled brat when I was young, but my parents stuck it out and had to enforce some tough love discipline on me, and I think I turned out pretty alright. Parents shouldn't be afraid to discipline their kids (with limits of course)

That's why it's so scary to bring up children these days. No matter how hard you try your best to teach them good values, once you send them to school, it's a whole different ball game. I know some kids who become bratty because they see their classmates acting like brats. How do you rectify that?

I do not spoiled my children. I treat them equally so that they can past this value on their future family.

It’s very hard to deal with spoiled child. Parents are sometimes too soft for their children. They don’t set any limitations on what they want to get so children become undisciplined, demanding, self centered and manipulative. Parents must know how to prevent such bad behavior like being a spoiled child. Spoiled child will run into trouble in the long run if you can’t prevent your child from becoming spoiled. They cannot maintain friends and playmates due to their bad behavior. In the long run they will suffer and they eventually become unhappy that may result to lack of motivation and interest in school activities.

When/how do you draw the line between disciplining your children and child abuse? I know some parents who spank their children to discipline them, yet some consider that child abuse already

Besides physical abuse, what I can't stand is verbal abuse. My dad loves me but was always so cruel to my brother for some reason. He quickly becomes angry at him. He didnt only hit him, he always had insults ready to throw at him, and accusations too. I'm just worried my brother might turn out like him....oops sorry wrong topic...got carried away...

neoscythe - 29 September 2008 11:06 PM

Enforcing disciplne and structure is a big responsibility and a big challenge to commit yourself by being firm with how you want to bring up your children. Establish your outer limits of safety. Reinforce positive social behavior in a similar way. Know what you will encourage, such as saying please and thank you and playing gently with friends. Talk openly with your children about behavior as they get older. Stay calm. Losing your temper with bad behavior only makes you feel bad and look out of control and it doesn't teach the child better behavior. Be consistent. Always do what you say you're going to do. If you tell your child there will be consequences for a certain behavior, they should know you mean it.

I totally agree with what you are saying.

Yes we must put guidelines and disciplinary actions towards our children so that they could grow up more responsible in life. When spoiled brats they grow up, they cannot be that responsible and will tend to rely on their parents and guardians.

I treat them equally. If I buy something for my eldest son, I would ask my youngest son what he wants. I also told them that if we cannot afford it now they should wait until we can buy them.

That’s my problem, I can’t say no to my kid. I always give her what she wants and needs even if I know it’s not necessary.

That’s a bad way to raise your kid. Just buy them what their necessity and not their wants. If you have some budget you can buy what they want but their grades are high or they would behave well.

Thanks and I’m now talking my kid to read books rather than watching TV. I believe that your children are well behaved because of your good parenting skills.