We've been thinking about moving about 1300 miles away, back to where I grew up. He's never lived there, and neither of us has ever moved that far with children before. Does anyone have any suggestions? We're wanting to move because we just want a new start somewhere else, we're both really tired of where we're at. I'm worried about the whole process of making sure we've got a place to live, and just getting established and such. When I moved here to begin with, I was a teenager, and came to live with my mom for a while before getting a place of my own. She was already established here, so there weren't too many unknown variables, except for where I'd get a job. Now everything is crucial since we have children and I'm pretty nervous. Has anyone else ever moved across country with kids before? We've thought about moving where his company has a plant, but at the same time, I really want to go "home". Also, we've never had to get new jobs that were far away so we're not sure how to go about that process. If anyone has anything to offer, feel free...the tiniest tidbit may be what I'm looking for to give me a bit more confidence and courage in the decision.

Anyone and everyone has a strong affinity towards the place, where they have lived for a better part of their life. However, Kami you should realise this fact that this is life and it always goes on and waits for none. I know that you will manage, as it takes guts to share such problems. I m sure you will adapt after a particular period.

Vivian - 31 May 2008 05:04 AM

However, Kami you should realise this fact that this is life and it always goes on and waits for none.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at there... are you saying that we shouldn't move back to where I call "home" because life goes on, and it's changed? just trying to clarify...

You can do it. 30 yrs. ago I never was out of the state of NJ. I was 30 yrs. old, divorced with 8 yr old son. I sold my stuff, took only what was important(my son and cats); purchased a VW Van and not knowing anyone moved to Florida(the cold in NJ that winter helped convince me). I did ok so will you...life is to short not to do what is in your heart...

As, a child my parents took us on a couple BIG moves and I turned out pretty good....I think
As long as your children know you love them, and you show them support, and try not to let the stress of the move show to much Everyone should be fine
Best Of Luck
I think you should go for it`:)

Change is scary but change can also means making things better or starting fresh. Follow your heart, it's where your happiness is. My son and i also moved to a new place,i had doubts at first but when my son told me, " i love it here. i'm free to move around" that's how i got my confidence to pull the plan through. We used to live with my inlaws and we were sad like prisoners. Now we simply enjoy being ourselves in our new home. Good luck with your endeavors, i know you have the best desires for your children.

After you've made a thorough evaluation of the pros and cons of moving back to where you grew up, decide to feel at peace with your decision - what ever it will be. Make the most out of the living situation you choose and be happy! Good luck and all the best to you and your family.

We moved from Utah to North Carolina with an 8-month old baby, and other than my husband's interview for the job, none of us had even been there before! Super scary! It wound up being one of the best experiences that I've ever had. We got to see things we'd never seen before and met some really great people. Eventually, we were transferred back to the West Coast, and we moved back to the town I grew up in - I hated it! Coming back as an adult with kids, it just wasn't as good as I had remembered, I got sick of my family's politics, kept running into people I didn't want to see, etc. Now we're living somewhere in between both our hometowns, and it's fantastic. Close enough to get to either parents' home in a day, but far enough to have our own life. The one solid bit of advice I'd give you, is that you need to research living expenses, make sure you have viable job opportunity, etc. It might be best to go where your husband can stay with his company; that way, he doesn't lose seniority, you're not flying without a parachute, and if you don't like it, you can always so back to your hometown. Best of luck, and sorry to write a novel!

You'll be fine, just make sure that you take measures to properly prepare for such a big move. First, spend some time on internet job sites applying for positions that you are qualified for. Look for employers that are willing to help with relocation costs. Working with placement and temp agencies can also help you land a job BEFORE you make the move, which will lessen the stress and worry about the unknown.

Once you have employment lined up, depending on whether or not your new employer is willing to contribute to or pay for your relocation costs, maybe take one or two trips to view houses or apartments that are located near your new jobs. Again, the web can be an excellent resource for this, as you can now do real estate searches narrowed down by city/state/zip code.

Being prepared before you take the plunge will make the experience of moving go much smoother. Best of luck with your move.

Its good to move to a new country learn their culture and heritage. But be careful since you are outnumbered by them its still best to communicate and study their manners.

I wonder how kami (the original poster) and her family are. I want to know because we're in the same situation (I moved 6 months ago).

That being said, let me share my experience:

1. Before moving, you can get all the information you need, but don't keep your expectations too high. Go to the internet, ask people who live and have lived there - they'll say it's ok and it's easy. But... to each his own. Their experiences may not be as good as yours, or, maybe they're just saying that not to discourage you.

2. You learn something new everyday. I've been here 6 months ago, but I'm still learning something new (good and bad)everyday. If you're in your hometown/home country, you also learn something new each day anyway, what more if you're in another place?

3. If you really can't take the pressure, use your return ticket.

I only stayed for a couple of weeks in a new country and I have learned the same things with you Choco. We can be tricked in any way because we are foreigners, but we also have to learn from our mistakes.

^Exactly. But then again, it's always good to make "informed" decisions. I couldn't emphasize more about being well-informed.

If you’re moving to another country, better to study their social lifestyle and culture. It’s better to have more knowledge of the country you are moving so that you can adapt easily.

What country would you like to move to?

I want to move to a tropical weather country. I hate the winter season and I want some sun all thru the year.

I like a country that runs on a 4 season of weather. I love the sun but I don’t want to have half of the year staying under it.

I will research first on the country I want to move then I will study their customs and traditions. I would also like to move on a tropical whether nation and has a lot of beaches.

Did anyone here move to another country? Can you share your experience?

My parents move to another country and they had a difficult time adjusting. They had culture shock and they don't have friends around them. It's difficult from the start but as you progress things will go fine afr you meet new friends in the country.